Give more praise. Research has shown
that parents are heavy on the criticism and light on the praise. Thank
and praise your children for minor daily things, and lighten up on the
criticism. Appreciate your children for who they are.
Be interested in
what your children are doing. On a recent episode of Parenthood,
the father of one boy said, "I would have loved for my son to be
interested in baseball, but he was fascinated by bugs. So I got
interested in bugs."
to get your children to do what you want. It you're accused of
bribing, remind your child that a bribe is giving someone a large
amount of money to do something illegal.
Don't lecture. Be
Research has shown that teens tune out after 11-15 words. (My daughter
admitted that she tunes out after she hears the word
Divide chores into
two categories: non-negotiable (go to school, do homework, be safe)
and negotiable (when and where to do homework, which chores to do,
Don't accuse. When there is an
issue, state the problem without accusing, and brainstorm solutions
Spend quality time
with each child several days per week, doing something he or she likes
to do. This does not need to cost money. Put your phones away during
Talk to your
children respectfully and expect the same treatment from them.
Pick your battles. If working with
your own child on schoolwork is too stressful, get an outside
Use humor whenever possible,
and don't forget to have fun.
If we can help you
relieve stress in any way (by providing a tutor or academic coach, for
example) let us know.
Tutoring For Success Inc.